Confessions of a Rufflebutt

The little place of lolita, steampunk, otome and otaku-ness of Yamneko, a self-proclaimed Ruffle-butt.

5 roses so far

5 roses so far

Gonna fill this jar with black ribbon roses. Gothic enough? I might put fake pearls in their centers too. They will then be put on hair pins.

Gonna fill this jar with black ribbon roses. Gothic enough? I might put fake pearls in their centers too. They will then be put on hair pins.

my parents are coming down to visit for a week, and I would like to have *some* money so I can, ya know, pay for myself or maybe pick up the tab for them once in a while, but there’s only 200 in the account right now, still another day till payday (and then all THOSE bills) and I feel like there’s still ONE MORE autopayment to come out thats like 250…. :\ so yeah… I did not count on him going out last night and paying for his and probably like 2 other peoples meals. GOD DAMNIT So I feel all stressed out about it and bummed now. I was having such a good moods the last few days! 

whatevendoe asked:

Lolita the book was published in 1955. The lolita fashion did not make its appearance until around the 1980s at the earliest. Do you really think it's a coincidence that dressing like a prepubescent girl is called lolita now? Come on girl.

petitepasserine:

Come on, girl, stop being an ignorant know-it-all and realize 1000+ people firmly disagrees with your ridiculous opinion. Is it really that tiresome to google the name Lolita? Appareantly dense people like you just can’t be assed to open a new tab, so here is some information for you;

LOLITA IS A SPANISH NICKNAME. LOLITA is a nickname that existed way before the book was published. It’s a spanish nickname for girls named Dolores, just like Dolly. It’s just a cute name people gave to cute girls named Dolores.

The main character in Lolita, the book, was called Dolores. Vladimir Nabokov didn’t invent the name Lolita, his main character was called Lolita because it already existed BEFORE HE WROTE THE BOOK.

The lolita FASHION took it’s name from the spanish nickname because it was a cute nickname for girls, usually feminine and cute girls, named Dolores. The sexual connotations only exist in the western world, some countries still use the name Lolita as a nickname because the name isn’t anything sexual to them, just like how lolita fashion isn’t sexual. It’s literally just the western world that sexualizes the shit out of children and convince everybody their definition is the right one. Just because you’ve been raised to believe something does not mean it’s true.

Come on, girl. Don’t be an asshat pretending like you own the world and know everything when you don’t even know how to use google. Jesus, some people are so painfully self-confident when they’ve literally got no reason to be.

Come on, girl, do your research! It’s really not that hard! :-D

schwirl asked:

Lolita is sexual. Literally. The definition of lolita is a sexually attractive adolescent girl. It's not just a cute 'kawaii' fashion statement. You can't sexualise something that is already sexual by default.

manda-the-stars-shine-bright:

streetsnapfashion:

petitepasserine:

thethirddecade1121:

p0kemina:

petitepasserine:

Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Literally. If I got a dollar for every person who thought this because they couldn’t be assed to do their research, I’d be a happy girl indeed.

Lolita is a book written by Vladimir Nabokov about a girl named Dolores Haze, but her nickname is Lolita. The protagonist of Lolita falls in love with Dolores despite him being 42 and her being 12. He is a pedophile who abuses, rapes and takes sexual advantage of her after becoming her stepfather.

Lolita FASHION is something else entirely. Lolita FASHION is a fashion trend that started in Harajuku, inspired by victorian fashion, victorian dolls, sailor dresses and femininity, and most of all, self-expression. It has NOTHING to do with the book by the same name. The only thing they share is their name. Lolita FASHION has nothing to do with sex, because it’s just that; A FASHION. 

Lolita is a term misguided and misinformed people (such as yourself) use about attractive girls when, in truth, it stems from a book about a pedophile rapist.

Do your research before you try to start a discussion on something you have no clue about. There is absolutely no reason for you to be this much of an arrogant know-it-all when you haven’t even done the research to back up your arguments. Don’t be overconfident before you’re 100% certain that you’re right. 

Can I just add a thing here

When my mum heard about / discovered that this weird fashion I started trying to wear at 16 was called “lolita,” she had a miniature heart attack. She thought I didn’t understand that that word was used in the wrong context often. She thought that the fashion was intended to be sexual and that I was too naive to understand that, and that I just took it to be a cute fashion. Here’s the thing tho: it IS just a cute fashion. And after explaining this, she was then worried that other gross people would sexualise me against my will or target me and therefore I shouldn’t be wearing it.

Wrong. It is other people’s fault for sexualising me, not mine. It is never my fault, if I am sexualised against my will. It is never anybody’s fault.

Especially when, personally, I liked the idea of lolita because it was so darn sweet and elegant, and in my opinion, so not-sexually-charged in a world that shoved sex in my face every day. It was a breath of fresh air. I’ve had more sexual connotations associated with me when I was fucking 12 and wore a tank top and shorts to grade 7 orientation on a hot summers day and everyone who didn’t know my name called me ~the girl with the boobs~ for two years straight. Like ????

And then we fast forward to when I met my dad’s partner and she heard about lolita and had a minature heart attack because, in juxtaposition to my mum, it was so adorable, she couldn’t believe it. In her native culture, Lolita was a nickname for Dolores and had little-to-no sexual connotations with it. She even, if my memory serves me right, mentioned that lolita or dolly was just something you called sweet young girls. So the word was really fitting and it was all just so sweet and cute. She even pronounces it with a Spanish accent despite having an Australian accent because that’s what you do with totally native words.

So I’m emphasising a cultural difference here.

And here’s my thing, here’s a bit of TL;DR:

Have pedophiles and misogynist pigs who sexualise young girls seriously infiltrated every aspect of our society that it is somehow more fucking plausible that girls who want to dress in cute and feminine fashion are doing so because they want to be sexualised? Or that they should expect to be sexualised? Is that what people are saying now? That girls cannot take charge over their lives and their aesthetic for one god damned second before being, yet again, sexualised in every aspect of their being?

I don’t want to use ‘you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t’ but hey, that’s all I can muster up right now because I feel like I’m on a different fricking planet.

And, as a not-so-subtle side note, if you don’t think mainstream porn and it’s culture has something to do with this, you are dead wrong.

Amazing new concept: If girls want to be sexual, they can be sexual. If they don’t, they don’t. Either fucking way it is impossible to win when mainstream society oversexualises young girls and their fashion in an ~adult way~ and if you somehow take a different path you’re fetishised as an ~innocent sex nymph doll~ like where the fuck do we draw the line?

I will tell you where we draw the god damned line: where ever the fuck the girl in question draws her own m o t h er fricking line.

WOW.

Thank you for writing this. I thought they were the same thing and I was really disturbed so I’m REALLY glad to learn that the fashion and the book are not related at all, whew. Also gross men stop it and go away.

holy mother of Jesus PREACH IT MINA

My big question is why, in 2014, people still read that freaking book and are not able to think ‘Wow, it’s HER NICKNAME not some sexual connotation with her being underaged! omg! News!! News!’ I’m glad I can tell people here where I live that I like lolita fashion because no one thinks it’s some sort of trap to catch predators or something since people know it’s a NAME.

Just throwing this out there but the book had already had a word for ‘a sexually precocious young girl’ that people seem to forget quite often. Nymphet. The sexual definition of lolita was derived from the book’s definition of nymphet. There is literally no reason to be using the word lolita to describe a sexually precocious young girl because there’s already a word for it.

She even, if my memory serves me right, mentioned that lolita or dolly was just something you called sweet young girls.

If this is true, then the fashion was probably named after the nickname, then the word Lolita being borrowed, surprised, not from English. And makes 1000x more sense for the name of the fashion. 

I’ve been picking at my nails again :\ 3 of them are right down to the nail bed, and 2 of them are very close too :\ 

siximpossiblegames:

yamneko replied to your post “Maybe I should get a group of people together and play some archeage ”

archeaaggeeeee

Do you play it is it good?

I like it, but I’ve just been playing in the betas and havent been doing a lot of the crafting/pvp kind of stuff yet. 

ladymittsy:

culturalappropriationon:

geekykristie:

angelacarterofmars:

Girl meets world addresses Cultural appropriation

this is actually embarassingly wrong, though. sure, she looks tacky but this is a purely white liberal construct we’re looking at here. generally speaking, people in contemporary japan aren’t going to see something like that as misappropriation, and it hardly makes sense to even try to look at it that way because harajuku is, you know, a shopping district that sells mass produced clothing. maybe this girl is doing something else noxious in the episode, but what’s presented here just isn’t that.

there is of course a line in the sand, and in this case in specific it’s basically between nicki minaj and gwen stefani. nicki was, and maybe still does, calling herself harajuku barbie because she’s drawn a lot of inspiration for her looks from the bright, colourful styles of the district. a district in a wealthy industrialized nation. there’s no real difference between that and calling herself rodeo drive barbie or camden square barbie. gwen stefani, you know, was paying asian women to follow her around like ornaments. that’s a problem.

i get kind of suspicious when people, especially in mainstream tv, overwhelmingly go after “weaboos” as soft targets because it seems like a smokescreen to avoid going after the actually deeply troublesome and normalized acts of commodifying and trivializing marginalized groups.

also, a teacher dragging a teenage girl that hard in front of her entire class is fucked up.

I saw this like seven times yesterday scrolling on my phone and wasn’t about to start on it from there - but yeah pretty much what you said. People are ready to leap on those they perceive as weeaboos but people forget or ignore that Harajuku (and anime) is for sale.

Love of my life Kyary Pamyu Pamyu is the official Ambassador of Kawaii, as in it is a real part of her fashion-fused-musical-career as ordained by the government to promote Japanese kawaii culture and Harajuku fashions to the rest of the world in an effort to bump international attention, tourism, and sales. There are without a doubt social movements/ideas particular to the culture embedded in the different areas of Japanese fashion and act as a response to the culture - but frankly, overall, a lot of Japanese fashion is fashion. It exists for an aesthetic; it exists for expression; it exists for influence and ultimately consumption; and today more than ever it exists for export.

Sitting around and pointing a finger at every Japanese fashion labeling it as deeply intrinsic and important and special and exclusive to the culture is harmful; by doing so you are denying a contemporary creative base the autonomy to evolve and speak for itself. “Japan is a land of tradition” yeah, okay, but it doesn’t live in a fucking vacuum trembling from fear of the peeking gaijin.

What is happening here is a young girl is dressed in a fashion she cannot identify, which can be a case of cultural appropriation when “plagiarizing and/or thieving” is the mode of operation. For example: Someone latching on to a visual they saw while watching a Japanese film/whatever then went on to claim the style as their own creation and started selling it without ever acknowledging their influences or affirming the creatives whose work they are leeching from. Which is of course a lot to assume of a middle schooler to be intentionally doing. 

And that is totally Cory laying the smack down on his own daughter in front of an entire class. Double messed up. 

Bolded for highlight because I know a lot of people won’t read it otherwise.

This

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I think I’m getting a lot closer to the style I want for the game.

I think I’m getting a lot closer to the style I want for the game.

Things to do today:

  • Cu tout fabric pieces
  • lots of stretches. Some working out
  • DRAWING YO
  • ANIMATION YO
elkaydee:

hatsumiyo-momichi:

jethrocane:

summer-band-dreams:

ninthdoctorsbutt:

jethrocane:

LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING ABOUT THIS STUFF
I BOUGHT IT
MONTHS AGO
TRIED IT ONCE
I THOUGHT IT WAS HORRIBLE
IT WAS STICKY AND CEMENTED MY LIPS TOGETHER
IT GOT ON EVERYTHING 
IT DIDN’T SUPER-STAY
I THREW IT INTO MY DRAWER WITHOUT ANOTHER THOUGHT
AND THEN OUT OF THE BLUE I DECIDED TO TRY IT AGAIN
HOPE IN MY HEART, PEACE IN MY SOUL, I DECIDED TO TRY IT AGAIN
I READ THE DIRECTIONS
AND ALL OF A SUDDEN, I SAW THE LIGHT
I COULD SEE CLEARLY NOW, THE RAIN WAS GONE
TURNS OUT
YOU HAVE TO PUT THE RED STUFF ON FIRST
WAIT FOR IT TO DRY
COMPLETELY (I MISSED THIS STEP BEFORE)
IT SHOULD BE SO DRY AND IF YOU KISS THE BACK OF YOUR HAND, NO MARK SHOULD SHOW
AND THEN I PUT THE BALM ON (I ORIGINALLY TRIED PUTTING THE BALM ON FIRST…. DON’T DO THAT.)
AND IT GOT RID OF ALL THE STICKINESS
AND THE RED DOESN’T EVEN GET ALL UP IN THE WHITE BALM
IT WAS A MIRACLE 
THIS STUFF IS THE FUCKING BEST
IT STAYS ON FOR A REALLY LONG TIME
IT DOESN’T GET ON ANYTHING
AMAZING I WANT TO BUY THIS IN FORTY SHADES OKAY I ENCOURAGE YOU ALL TO TRY IT

NO BUT DO KEEP IN MIND THAT IT REALLY DOES STAY ON FOR A VERY VERY LONG TIME
AS IN, LONG ENOUGH TO FORCE YOU TO SCRUB IT OFF AT THE END OF THE DAY
THIS STUFF ISN’T FOR THE WEAK, THIS IS FOR THE POWERFUL BADASSES WHO WASH THE BLOOD OF THEIR ENEMIES OUT OF THEIR CLOTHES AT THE END OF THE DAY LIKE ITS NOTHING

IF YOU RUB TOOTHPASTE ON YOUR LIPS IT COMES OFF EASIER

YES THIS IS A GOOD TIP I HAVE HAD THIS EXPERIENCE
GIVE IT A LIL SCRUB WITH THE OL’ PEARLY WHITE RUB A DUB DUB
IT WILL COME OFF
IT WILL DO AS YOU COMMAND
THIS MAKEUP   O B E Y S
IT   S T A Y S

you guys are really good at this promoting products thing, I really would buy the hell out of this

I usually use it for Sofia so I was like okay it works for her it’ll work for chibi usa,I put it on and I was like ew and I tried taking it off in the car..
Nope LOL didn’t work. I had pink lips all day haha.

It comes off pretty fast if you use a different chap stick on it. I use the EoS chapstick egg things, and it goes away soooo fast

elkaydee:

hatsumiyo-momichi:

jethrocane:

summer-band-dreams:

ninthdoctorsbutt:

jethrocane:

LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING ABOUT THIS STUFF

I BOUGHT IT

MONTHS AGO

TRIED IT ONCE

I THOUGHT IT WAS HORRIBLE

IT WAS STICKY AND CEMENTED MY LIPS TOGETHER

IT GOT ON EVERYTHING 

IT DIDN’T SUPER-STAY

I THREW IT INTO MY DRAWER WITHOUT ANOTHER THOUGHT

AND THEN OUT OF THE BLUE I DECIDED TO TRY IT AGAIN

HOPE IN MY HEART, PEACE IN MY SOUL, I DECIDED TO TRY IT AGAIN

I READ THE DIRECTIONS

AND ALL OF A SUDDEN, I SAW THE LIGHT

I COULD SEE CLEARLY NOW, THE RAIN WAS GONE

TURNS OUT

YOU HAVE TO PUT THE RED STUFF ON FIRST

WAIT FOR IT TO DRY

COMPLETELY (I MISSED THIS STEP BEFORE)

IT SHOULD BE SO DRY AND IF YOU KISS THE BACK OF YOUR HAND, NO MARK SHOULD SHOW

AND THEN I PUT THE BALM ON (I ORIGINALLY TRIED PUTTING THE BALM ON FIRST…. DON’T DO THAT.)

AND IT GOT RID OF ALL THE STICKINESS

AND THE RED DOESN’T EVEN GET ALL UP IN THE WHITE BALM

IT WAS A MIRACLE 

THIS STUFF IS THE FUCKING BEST

IT STAYS ON FOR A REALLY LONG TIME

IT DOESN’T GET ON ANYTHING

AMAZING I WANT TO BUY THIS IN FORTY SHADES OKAY I ENCOURAGE YOU ALL TO TRY IT

NO BUT DO KEEP IN MIND THAT IT REALLY DOES STAY ON FOR A VERY VERY LONG TIME

AS IN, LONG ENOUGH TO FORCE YOU TO SCRUB IT OFF AT THE END OF THE DAY

THIS STUFF ISN’T FOR THE WEAK, THIS IS FOR THE POWERFUL BADASSES WHO WASH THE BLOOD OF THEIR ENEMIES OUT OF THEIR CLOTHES AT THE END OF THE DAY LIKE ITS NOTHING

IF YOU RUB TOOTHPASTE ON YOUR LIPS IT COMES OFF EASIER

YES THIS IS A GOOD TIP I HAVE HAD THIS EXPERIENCE

GIVE IT A LIL SCRUB WITH THE OL’ PEARLY WHITE RUB A DUB DUB

IT WILL COME OFF

IT WILL DO AS YOU COMMAND

THIS MAKEUP   O B E Y S

IT   S T A Y S

you guys are really good at this promoting products thing, I really would buy the hell out of this

I usually use it for Sofia so I was like okay it works for her it’ll work for chibi usa,
I put it on and I was like ew and I tried taking it off in the car..

Nope LOL didn’t work. I had pink lips all day haha.

It comes off pretty fast if you use a different chap stick on it. I use the EoS chapstick egg things, and it goes away soooo fast

Got the walking foot in the mail today! Tomorrow I guess is cutting out fabric pieces :3

artnouveaustyle:

From my personal experience over the years, I have found it difficult sometimes to find modern art nouveau furniture reproductions either to buy, look at or use as reference. But by chance I found a website which lists craftsmen and artists who make custom made art nouveau pieces (chairs, beds, tables etc.) from today.

Minus a few pieces that aren’t really AN, there is quite a lot to look at! (and drool over ;) )….Take a look at the link below:

http://www.custommade.com/gallery/custom-art-nouveau/

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20dollarlolita:

seriouspollynod:

spreepicky:

Lolita Good Match Bow Hair Bang Free Ship SP141089 $16.99 (via Lolita Good Match Bow Hair Bang Free Ship SP141089 · SpreePicky · Online Store Powered by Storenvy)

This photo’s stolen from Baby the Stars Shine Bright


  
Baby does the crisscross ribbon thing when photographing them flat too, like you see in the storenvy listing.


That or they did a very good job replicating their photo setup. 
I’m not saying the product is bunk, but there’s a good chance that it won’t look like the picture. Personally, I suggest that you do not buy from a seller who uses stolen photos, even if the reviews say it’s good. 
Budget Lolita is not getting ripped off. Not everyone selling online is a scammer, but you should know how to spot stolen pictures.
Lolita is a very niche fashion based on high quality. Everything needs to be made of good materials, nice lace, custom prints so detailed that you have to have special printing techniques. Only a few of each dress are made, and that drives the price up. The Brands also are taking risks that Bodyline or replicators aren’t. The Brands are coming up with new things and new ideas that they don’t know will sell. Something unpopular can lose them a lot of money. Making a replica of a very successful print is easy. You know what to make and that it will sell. Bodyline copies the latest trends and adds their own spin, but still keeping it relatively safe. 
When you look at it, Brand pricing isn’t as extreme as it seems at first glance. Does that mean I can afford it? Hell no. But it means that if you see a product at a price that is too good to be true, there’s a good chance it is. 
Remember your weapons when shopping online:
Know how all the Brands photograph their products, both now and in the past, and where they put their watermarks.
Know how much you would expect to pay for this item. Know how much you would expect to pay for the materials to make it. 
Can you make this thing? Will you?
Watch out for anywhere that throws huge watermarks onto the photos all the way across the picture. Most reputable sellers I can think of keep their watermark in the corner. Look for pictures that seem like they’ve had their watermark cropped off. 
When you see something you like, check taobao or reputable taobao resellers like qutieland or ClobbaOnline to make sure someone’s not reselling taobao brands at massively marked up prices.
Just a couple things to think about if you’re shopping online.

(Posted this on the wrong frilling blog so I’m reblogging it over to here.)

20dollarlolita:

seriouspollynod:

spreepicky:

Lolita Good Match Bow Hair Bang Free Ship SP141089
$16.99 (via Lolita Good Match Bow Hair Bang Free Ship SP141089 · SpreePicky · Online Store Powered by Storenvy)

This photo’s stolen from Baby the Stars Shine Bright

  

Baby does the crisscross ribbon thing when photographing them flat too, like you see in the storenvy listing.

That or they did a very good job replicating their photo setup. 

I’m not saying the product is bunk, but there’s a good chance that it won’t look like the picture. Personally, I suggest that you do not buy from a seller who uses stolen photos, even if the reviews say it’s good. 

Budget Lolita is not getting ripped off. Not everyone selling online is a scammer, but you should know how to spot stolen pictures.

Lolita is a very niche fashion based on high quality. Everything needs to be made of good materials, nice lace, custom prints so detailed that you have to have special printing techniques. Only a few of each dress are made, and that drives the price up. The Brands also are taking risks that Bodyline or replicators aren’t. The Brands are coming up with new things and new ideas that they don’t know will sell. Something unpopular can lose them a lot of money. Making a replica of a very successful print is easy. You know what to make and that it will sell. Bodyline copies the latest trends and adds their own spin, but still keeping it relatively safe. 

When you look at it, Brand pricing isn’t as extreme as it seems at first glance. Does that mean I can afford it? Hell no. But it means that if you see a product at a price that is too good to be true, there’s a good chance it is. 

Remember your weapons when shopping online:

  1. Know how all the Brands photograph their products, both now and in the past, and where they put their watermarks.
  2. Know how much you would expect to pay for this item. Know how much you would expect to pay for the materials to make it. 
  3. Can you make this thing? Will you?
  4. Watch out for anywhere that throws huge watermarks onto the photos all the way across the picture. Most reputable sellers I can think of keep their watermark in the corner. Look for pictures that seem like they’ve had their watermark cropped off. 
  5. When you see something you like, check taobao or reputable taobao resellers like qutieland or ClobbaOnline to make sure someone’s not reselling taobao brands at massively marked up prices.

Just a couple things to think about if you’re shopping online.

(Posted this on the wrong frilling blog so I’m reblogging it over to here.)

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Flowery Style Tea Cups —-so cute and nice

rainedragon:

whimsical-vanilla:

reachabovethetrees:

creativityhubme:

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harlotan!!!!!

I want the rose one!! Look
the-clockwork-harpist
:D

These are so cute! I looked them up and they seems to be from franzcollection.com. Unfortunately, they are really expensive.